Generally as a nation we are becoming more and more open about sex and less prudish. Gone are the days where women saved themselves for that ‘special someone’ got married and settled down with 2 point 4 children. Most children have had sex by the time they are 16, many stumble through their teenage years having drunken one night stands, after a night on the alco pops and falling out of night clubs. With this sort of behaviour is it really such a surprise that some women are tempted to cash in on their promiscuity?
As an ex promiscuous teenager myself, sex never seemed like a big deal. You can give away your body and have fun without giving away yourself - your soul, your heart. I wasn’t disrespecting myself because I enjoyed having sex with multiple partners, had fun, and had no regrets. Yes I initially did it because of being bullied by men for how I looked. A change of look and some ‘faked’ confidence, grew into real confidence and I suddenly had men falling at my feet. Sleeping with a variety of men helped build my confidence. Yes it wasn’t a great way to do it, but it worked, and I had lots of fun along the way. It was really not the way to do things and I’d discourage anyone thinking of going down this route.
However is it really any surprise that now we are getting children from every ‘class’ turning to escorting? I guess for working class and middle class girls it’s all about the cash, with some middle class kids rebelling, for upper class girls it’s maybe more about doing it for kicks, or as an act of rebellion against controlling parents.
For me at 25, single, and having stopped my promiscuity by the time I finally fell in love at 20, to go back to being promiscuous didn’t seem that big a deal. I’d been there and done that, only this time I was doing it for a different reason – money! Although I had been a rebellious teenager it certainly was not about that any more. I was a grown woman of 25. I’d closed down my exhibitionist side, realizing that subtle was more sexy. I was no longer promiscous, realizing after having a taste of what sex was like with a long term partner and how special and fulfilling it was. I was no longer unconfident, having restored my confidence some 5 years previous and falling in love for the first time.
Escorting was a well thought through and calculated decision. I wasn’t doing it for kicks, I wasn’t doing it for confidence. I’d already got that. I chose to escort purely and simply for the money. It was only after I started escorting I realised all the other perks. Meeting incredibly interesting, inspiring and kind people, dining at Michelin starred restaurants, travelling the world, country house breaks with spas and quad biking, and visiting some of the worlds most beautiful hotels. It was a life style choice.
I wasn’t naive I knew what the job entailed, but I was confident that I could make it work for me, if I did things my way, and made sure I was treated respectfully by the gentlemen I chose to see.
There are even women at my age still going out and having one night stands… and many of those probably judge women like myself that have worked as escorts.
I consider I have more self respect than drunken women having one night stands. Why? because I value myself and as an escort I put a price on myself. For example lawyers charge high fees for their services. The more money you charge the more you value what you offer, and this is no different for escorts.
Other women give themselves away, their dignity and self respect, for what? A drunken rumble with a stranger that hasn’t even taken her out and treated her like a lady – she’s not been a carefully selected lady, the guys just looked for someone he thinks is ‘game’ and has maybe had a few knockbacks before he’s found his prey, the ‘good time girl’ who’s already pissed out of her face so he won’t have to buy her many drinks, and she’s already showing her chest or knickers off to the men in the club. So he buys her a drink so he can get his leg over, and they can go back to his grotty pad for a drunken shag, probably without using protection. Then she wakes up oblivious as to where she is, who she’s with, and feels full of shame and regret and is lucky if she gets a cup of tea in the morning before being sent away for the walk of shame home.
On an escort job, I may not have met the person before but as with dating sites, we’ve exchanged emails and calls, and built a rapport. My gentleman might have even asked me where I’d like to stay, may favourite hotel or restaurant, he’s put thought into arranging the date. I go and meet him, (sober!), maybe have a chat and a drink in the room or the bar before sitting down to a leisurely, relaxed meal, where we may share a bottle of wine as we get to know each other further. After coffee, we make our way to the room, where we might put some music on, and I may light some candles, before we relax and explore each other more intimately.
Ok so there’s two scenarios… who’s got more self respect? Who’s in control of their situation the drunken lass that’s been in a nightclub, or me as a sober escort?
Here’s another bit of food for thought….. what other business could you set up and run with no initial cash outlay or training with such high earning potential?
It’s no wonder that it’s a tempting job for young girls, especially in the material world that we live in today, where teenagers are asking for Prada bags for birthdays and botox. I think the legal age for escorting should be 25 though. It’s not a job that suits everyone, it’s very specialized. You need to be strong minded, strong willed, and not have an addictive personality, if you want to keep your head above water if you chose to work as an escort.