15 August 2009, 11:18:08
Dating sites… mmm….so far I’ve found them a waste of time!
You’d think that if people were desperate enough (no insult intended, I’m browsing myself 
to go on them that they’d at least make an effort. It seems not. It’s so time consuming browsing page after page of illiterate losers! Apologies if that sounds harsh but it really is unbelievable some of the profiles you find. Let me find an example…
‘get bored in home so most of the time i am around the net looking for funny stuff.
would like to chat with other people and have a big laugh in front of the monitor.
if you wanna chat just send a message and i will reply.’
‘whomen
I fell lonly and I just need some one to cominiked have a nice time maby we can be good frined in the fitur I all so need some normal friend to have a travel arown the world to see things to know mor’
I mean what on earth are they thinking?
I appreciate that many people find this sort of thing hard but these guys need to swallow their pride and get some help with it if they want any sort of success. Again it’s that ‘issue’ men have with asking for help. The problem is they won’t find what they are looking for if they don’t sort out their profiles! If I was a guy finding it hard I’d ask a female friend to help me with it. I wonder how many of them are genuinely baffled as to why they haven’t had any replies?
I’ve been looking for a single guy 28-38 with no children looking for dating/long term.
The big no no’s for me are…
- unclear photos/sunglasses,hats,blurred and too many posey facial shots taken by the person themselves – arm stretched out. I want to see at least one facial smiling shot, one full body shot and an action shot… either out either the guys, playing a sport etc…
- txt spk – ther’s nuthin mor unatrractiv an off puttin! Geez if people can’t spell they should get some help or use spell checker. Again if the guys dyslectic (nothing wrong with that) get some help!
- ‘don’t know what to put here so email me and ask whatever you want to know’. If they can’t be bothered to create a well thought out profile, girls with half a brain won’t be bothered to contact them. I don’t want to have to ask what they are into and waste time on conversation when we have nothing in common.
- 3 lines of text. It’s just laziness. Unfortunately there’s no filter when you’re searching to filter out people who have only written 3 lines.
- ‘I have been hurt in the past and I’ve had some funni dates. I know there’s some time wasters and phsyco girls on here so if this is you don’t contact me’
Number one, anybody that is mentioning past relationships, shows they are still holding a grudge.
Number two, I lost count of how many times I’ve seen funny spelt with an i.
Number 3, half decent girls will be put off by the last line hence the only people the ad will attract are the people he doesn’t want to attract the bunny boilers!
Maybe I should contact them and offer to sort out their profiles … for a small fee of course 
Lol
I’ve looked on a few dating sites myself, and to be honest on some of the profiles the photos that are attached have made me think, what I would think if I saw your profile.
“She’s gorgeous. Who the fudge are they trying to kid. Using a picture they’ve gotten from some web site. There’s no way someone so pretty would need to be on an internet dating site”.
What because good looking women always have plenty of men to date? Pft! Don’t you believe it Michael! Lol.
Bea, what dating sites have you visited then – the free ones like plenty of fish? What did you expect to find?
Have you tried the higher quality ones,e.g. the one from Guardian, or my single friend? And if you’re into vanity, try beautifulpeople.com or whatever it’s called.
I’m on guardian and am rather successful, don’t even need a public photo. It’s the words that count
And a comment for Michael – lots of gorgeous women use dating sites now a days… much more convenient.
Initially yea I did. But it didn’t take long to see what a waste of time they were. I signed up and paid for profiles in match.com and EHarmony. I was attracted to Eharmony because it was a paid site but also because of the in depth questionnaire. However it’s completely useless, and their customer service is some of the worst I have ever had to deal with. The problem I have is that I don’t have much spare time. Probably one of the reasons I’m single lol
So trawling through sites and being sent unsuitable matches is a waste of precious time. For example EHarmony when i requested matches within a 60 mile radius, sent me 6 out of 7 from either worldwide or as far south as Devon. I spent 3 hours closing down their ‘unsuitable matches’ from my profile. I had to go into each one individually. This is one of the things I complained about but got nowhere with.
I’m not sure if you saw any of my recent posts, but I’m looking at buying a personal introductions agency/ dating agency franchise for Nottingham. So I hope to kill two birds with one stone so to speak ;-p